Do you think married couples should both work?

i came up with this question after a few things.

A woman joined us as a starting secretary for her first ever job aged 49 today.she married at 18 and the husband did not want her to work.At 50 he had a crisis and started chasing girls in their late 20s and early 30s.Then asked for a divorce.As he only worked there not much assets to divide but kids and a second mortgage.She is a lovely woman but now been forced into an unknown world at almost 50.

Also i read quite a few posts from women here .One seems so happy not to work and be a house wife and said husband bought a t-shirt saying "too pretty to work".What happens when like this lady she hit 50 and starts to show wrinkles and few grey hair?She not as pretty as before and such a guy could boot her for someone else to wear the t-shirt.

I think even in marriages where 1 income is enough the other partner man or woman should work for independence and future security even if its only part time.

What do you all think?

Do you think married couples should both work?

i agree, the only person you can count on is yourself.

Do you think married couples should both work?

I think people need to do whatever best suits their lifestyle and family. And I think that's exactly what people are doing....

I work full time, my husband works full time. I also just started a part time job. But I've also stayed home for 3 months maternity leave and loved every minute of it. Well, minus the fact that I was stir crazy...but I loved being home and not working.

To each their own. People need to do what's best for them. And the rest of us need not judge....

Do you think married couples should both work?

If the relationship is a sound one, and there are no indications of trouble, I think a family can work out with one working parent... it's great for the kids...

The problem is when the relationship DOESN'T work, and the person who has not been working is powerless to move on, because they have no financial identity... They have to wait until a final divorce order to get their share...

So... I think that the person that's not working has to have some way of supporting themselves if things don't work. Do projects. Stay up on technology. Do contract work that keeps you in the game and keep you with current references. Have a plan with the partner that a certain amount is put aside each week as a reserve.

That's how we are handling it (I'm the breadwinner, and hubby stays at home... but he's always got a project or two going on...)

Do you think married couples should both work?

If a woman does not work, it should be because she made the final decision not to work, not just because her husband doesn't want her to.

Do you think married couples should both work?

You are sooo right on.

Any partner in a relationship has to think of themselves and also thier future in addition to the well being of their marriage.

I had struggled for many years as a single mother recovering from a hell of a mistake of a marriage. I have payed my own way and then some. Mothered and fatherd my child, saved and bought a home, payed my bills-- the whole nine yards.

Then, enter my Prince Charming....wow - I am fianlly being paid back for years of struggle. We are not rich, but we get by just fine. I don't HAVE to work, but I WANT to work, so I work part-time for several reasons:

A) So that I am still contributing to our relationship finacially as well as physically, by keeping house and taking care of all the little things - my husband has to do NOTHING but go to work, just like he would anyway. He is spoiled, but then so am I.

B) I am still staying in the work force (What if he gets sick, or hurt, etc.) and keeping my resume current and up to date just in case....

I don't want to be that woman, I feel for her.

Do you think married couples should both work?

I agree with you up to a certain point. I think that its not so important for both to work, but it is important for both to have an education. Some families make very good money and the wife can stay home and raise the kids, which is great!!! But if the time comes that the husband wants to "chase girls around" then she can easily find a good paying job with her level of education and or degree. It's sad to see housewifes brag about how much money their husband makes and they just sit around at home watching soaps! Its sad bc they should be going to college and bettering themselves since they have so much money lying around. Be prepared for the future, cuz you never know what life might throw at you.

Do you think married couples should both work?

If a couple is content with a single income, that's their choice.

But in this day and age, the more money you make, the more money you spend.

So it's normal for both the man and woman to have careers outside of the home.

Personally, I could not be a house wife. I would prefer to have my brain stimulated by my work and co-workers.

Do you think married couples should both work?

I tolataly agree with you. Both Man and Wife should work. A stay at home spouse will become locked in a world of thier own.Things change real fast out side and one needs to be involed to keep pace. It also gives a person a feeling of self worth...(I am part of something) Working also expans the mind...I could go on and on but I think you get the picture. One last thing..money. Haveing ones own money makes you feel as though you too are helping your spouse and does give you a little more freedom from living paycheck to paycheck.

Do you think married couples should both work?

Because she's 50 I feel as though she comes from a time when this was VERY common. nowadays you will find a stay at home mom or dad for the sake of the kids not simply because the husband/wife doesnt want their spouse to work. Don't get me wrong im sure there are still people out there with that mindset especially men but not as bad as 30 years ago.

Personally, if my future spouse could support us I would still want to work. If it were possible for me to stop working when my children are little I would love to take advantage of that with the mindset that I would go back into the workforce later.

I have an aunt (age 38) who doesnt work anymore and she's highly intelligent BA degree and loved being independent and working hard but my uncle is a vet and is quite successful now and their kids are young so she wants to stay home. If that is possible while children are young, I think its great. I think it is very important that the mother have a strong presence in her kids' lives. They are of school age now so she is also doing it cuz she has time during the day to do her own thing so she has more motives than just her children. I would stay home until they were in school then I would go back to work. I'm going to be a teacher so I would still be home when they are. I would never get married to man who thought it was wrong for women to work.

Do you think married couples should both work?

women need to work, its an equal partnership.. I come from family with money and my father supported the family and my ****** mother didnt' work. She just sat around, spending my father's money and bitched and complained. When my father lost his job, things were lookin bleak and all my ****** mother did was put my father down. I wished that he had lift her, Iknow he wanted to but he was the oldest in the family so he didn't want to look like a familiar to his family. Now, he's just putting up with it till he dies I guess